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Any safe medicine for longer ejacuation

Hi,

My age is 27 and i am very much confused in whether should i take any medicine for longer sex,since i can't do sex more than 30 secs.

Please guide me in this case.My gmail id is jandial.***@****
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Dear Amit:

There are no medications, pills, etc. that can help you last longer. In fact, some of the products advertised can be quite harmful, since none has ever been evaluated by a medical authority and deemed effective or safe.

Instead, I invite you read about how YOU can take charge of your sexuality without relying on any substance.

During their early self-pleasuring experiments, many men learn a very quick orgasm pattern in order to avoid detection—like in the bathroom (“You’ve been in there for hours! What are you doing?”) So if you learned to come quickly when being sexual with yourself, that can also set up a lifelong pattern. Learning to come quickly with a partner can also set up this pattern. Guilt and anxiety about sex may also create a situation where some men just want to get it over with quickly so they won’t have to deal with any of those feelings. And, of course, if you’re focused on “performing,” rather than just enjoying yourself, your penis can become incredibly stubborn and uncooperative.

Once you learn to control your orgasm, realize that each man has an individual orgasmic pattern unique to him. A lot of this anxiety about “premature” ejaculation is based on paranoia, and the idea that it's somehow ideal to have erections last way longer than they tend to realistically for most men, most of the time. Sure, sometimes, a man might last 15 minutes, 30 minutes, even an hour, but 75% of all males have an orgasm within 2 minutes of beginning penis-vagina (p-v) sex. I wonder if you’ve asked your partner how long she would like you to last? Are you thinking that if you last longer, somehow she’ll have an orgasm during p-v sex? The fact is that most women DON’T orgasm during p-v sex. It’s a much more effective way for men to orgasm than women, so please don’t attempt to reach some kind of “orgasmic goal” because you think it will ultimately please her.

That said, here are some techniques for lasting longer:

First, slow down during self-pleasuring and unlearn that old pattern of quick orgasm. You state that as soon as you touch yourself, you orgasm. You need to tune into what's going on in your head. What are you thinking about just before you touch yourself? Are you relaxed and turned on, or are you feeling anxious, guilty, conflicted? This can set up a pattern of quick orgasm.

Try just thinking something sexual and letting your penis get erect, and then think about something non-sexual and let your penis relax. Do this many, many times in order to get the sense of control.

Then try teasing yourself by touching yourself just once, then backing off and relaxing, and then beginning again. This will give you a sense of control as well as teach you to recognize your own point of no return (when you know you're about to have an orgasm, no matter what). Another thing to try is when you feel yourself getting close to orgasm, relax, breathe deeply, and cease movement. Some men also find they last longer if they have an orgasm on their own awhile before beginning partner sex. This tends to take the edge off, if you will.

Once you feel in control of your orgasm, you can also examine whether you have any feelings of discomfort with being sexual—either with yourself or with a partner. These feelings of discomfort can create extreme conflict and cause you to feel the need to get it over with quickly. If you look at sex as something to finish quickly—get it up, get it in, get it off—you’ll need to let go of that old mentality. And naturally, if there are any relationship conflicts or you’re angry or feeling resentful about your partner, these can also contribute to wanting to get it over with. In addition, these feelings can also inhibit erections with a partner. I highly recommend the book, "The New Male Sexuality," by Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D., widely available on line, both used and in paperback. This book has helped thousands of men to better understand their sexuality. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
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i am about 50 years old now.
over a period of time i have also have had the same problem. but now i am dealing with erection difficulties probably age related.
the best thing that helped me last longer was to start and stop with sexual activitiy
stop before ejaculation and mentally work on control
even if it means pulling out every ten seconds and then gain control and start again.
for me i was able to get up to one hour or more without ejacualtion and still maintaining an erection.
i do use some cialis now for erection but still with or without i can last at least 15 to 30 minutes.
on a good day i can last over an hour
not sure if the cialis or other erection enhancing meds will help slow down ejaculations??(spelling?)
there is a eastern science that may help also which is called tantra.
go online and study.  beware there are a lot of quacks with this but also a lot of good information about prolonged ejaculation and no ejaculation.
its possible to have hours of sex and no ejaculation.
i had  a few years of an average once weekly ejaculation with some of the tantra techniques.
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forgot to say. that some guys can have hard sex and last a long time.
me i have to go slow and easy until i am sure i have control and then faster and harder.
depends on many factors but try various methods and expierement with different
positions and speeds and intensity???
is it the ejaculation or the erection that is short lived??
there have been times for me that i am with a girl and dont move and just stop activity sometimes pull out and sometimes not pull out to gain and maintain control over my ejaculations. then resume when i am not at that point of no return
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